And definitely no need to forgive someone for sketchy behaviour on the first few dates. That’s the time when people are putting their VERY BEST behaviour out there. If he can’t manage to act decently for two hours, it’s only going to get worse.

Chronic lateness is a sign of poor character. The guy was testing you to see how much crap you’d put up with. If you’d gone with it, he’d have found his dream girl.

It’s just habit. Cultivate more trust in your life. Otherwise, the game could go both ways. How can one trust a guy who signs his name Fisch?

Here’s to breaking habits.

And I’d never trust a comment from a guy who signs his name on bottom when his name is already on the top. I can’t imagine how proud you’d have to be of your comment to sign your name again at the bottom.

-Fisch

Ftrain: the cat is toast.

And then she goes out with the brother and he turns out to be much like many other triflin’ brothers I’ve been hearing about! I would feel bad about taking my girlfriend to Dunkin Donuts, much less a first date. And then not even to offer to pay for WATER? I think she showed remarkable kindness in even walking back to the table. If I were with a first date and she insisted we go to Dunkin Donuts over a nice cafe or dinner or even Starbucks, I would walk her there and say that I had to go. If she asked why, I would tell her the truth: No woman who made an inferior choice when presented with superior ones FOR FREE can do anything for me. It’s a value judgment, I know, but I wouldn’t care because it’s my time.

Of course, the question of forgiveness with her friend is a different matter and a personal one. But to presuppose that she needed to forgive someone who clearly demonstrated being a shitshow on a first date is the kind of ish that brothers and sisters put on each other without logic or conviction. He could have had grace at 15 minutes, when he was late the first time. At 30 minutes or more, he had earned her eternal silence. And I’m saying this as a man who dates women.

Dawn, keep your standards and pay attention to the signs around you. I believe the lesson from the argument with your friend was not to be afraid of your standards and their consequences. It was a call to receive the conviction of your standards, not give in to the fear that you should lower them. If the Cosmos had been attempting to teach you a different lesson, it would have offered a different result. My two cents.

Samuel

If you’re going to set my house on fire, can you least let me know in advance so I can rescue my cat?

Second,

I now have to set your house on fire. My schedule is pretty tight for the next couple of months, but May looks good.

If you can’t forgive and forget you are in for a lonely — and probably unhappy — life.

But Dunkin and NOT getting anything? And then having you pay for something? Dude could have at least walked 100 blocks into bad neighborhoods to cash in a free drink card!

And yes, inane comments Friday is still a thing.

I’m currently on my last work trip for this job (I got a new one, start in two weeks, yay!). Today we toured two jail facilities. The inmates were pretty tame. The most exciting thing that happened was that my boss was walking up stairs directly in front of me, started to fall backwards (which would have created a fucked up domino effect with about eight of us) so I pushed out my arms and basically shoved him up the stairs. Good times.

Oh yeah, and what’s the problem you have with divorced guys who don’t have kids again? Jus’ wonderin’….