You catch a friend in a blatant lie, let it go or confront?
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by Dawn Summers on Friday, July 17th, 2009 at 12:21 pm and is filed under Audience Participation Weekend.
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July 17th, 2009 at 12:32 pm
Let it go. Let the friend go too.
July 17th, 2009 at 12:47 pm
How big is the lie? How good is the friend. I’ve lied to close friends, but they have been “white lies” – so you know it depends. I usually let it go….but they have been times where the pattern keeps repeating so like pearatty I would say let the friend go, but only if this is a pattern and it’s a big lie.
July 17th, 2009 at 12:56 pm
Ooh, nice line, pearatty! (As per usual!)
July 17th, 2009 at 12:58 pm
Still haven’t forgiven Kearns for the BBQ, huh?
July 17th, 2009 at 1:54 pm
Damn straight. Though, pdov, if I ever ask you if that thong bikini makes me look fat, you feel free to say “no way! You look awesome!”
July 17th, 2009 at 2:04 pm
confront if its a good friend, dump if not
July 17th, 2009 at 2:15 pm
If you ever wear a thong bikini in front of me, I will always reply “no way! You look awesome!â€
Oh and you do look awesome!
July 17th, 2009 at 2:26 pm
Did they lie about not being a democrat or something important like they DID eat the last cupcake?
July 17th, 2009 at 5:05 pm
Agree with PDov and 23skidoo — white lies get a pass, although I’d hope they’re rare, and with a good friend confront. But by “blatant” I assumed you meant “material”, as well as “obvous”. And even if it’s a good friend, if it’s a pattern, dump.
July 17th, 2009 at 5:43 pm
Lol @ Eric’s comment. You try to surprise someone on their birthday and they call you a liar. I don’t understand you *people*.
July 17th, 2009 at 7:20 pm
White lies are fine Kearns surprises can be fun just don’t lie to yourself
July 17th, 2009 at 8:27 pm
No sense in losing a friend. If it’s a white lie or something to save face, laugh and confront with reassurance that it’s not needed. If it’s a blatant lie, confront. If it’s like, no I didn’t eat the last cupcake… a good shovel beating would apply
July 17th, 2009 at 11:48 pm
In all seriousness, this is pretty situation-dependent. The vast majority of people out there will lie when they feel forced into it. The classic is “was my husband/wife working late with you last night?” When you pull someone else into your relationship problems, they’re going to lie, and you should expect it.
On the other hand, if they’re lying from selfishness it may be time to reevaluate the friendship. Confrontation, maybe, if there might be mitigating factors you’re unaware of.
July 18th, 2009 at 2:38 pm
“he classic is “was my husband/wife working late with you last night?†When you pull someone else into your relationship problems, they’re going to lie, and you should expect it.”
Disagree. I wouldn’t dump a friend for not cluing me in if they knew my husband/wife were cheating (although I’d be disappointed with them), if not directly asked, because that’s a tough spot. But if directly asked, and they choose to confirm the lie rather than tell the truth? Dumped. Definitely.