So…he was wrong…
Here is an update, courtesy of the New York Post, on the story of San Antonio Spur Richard Jefferson leaving his bride at the altar.
To be fair to Jefferson, the break-up wasn’t exactly on the wedding day. But it was close enough that some of his friends showed up for the ceremony.
Jefferson told the newspaper that he dumped Kesha Ni’Cole Nichols by e-mail.
“There was a lot of stress and tension in the relationship. We’ve been through a lot — but we just couldn’t continue,” said Jefferson by phone.
July 16th, 2009 at 10:44 am
“Jefferson said he gave his former fiance a six-figure settlement.
“I won’t say a negative word about Kesha. She is one of my best friends,” said Jefferson.”
Hush money? But in any event, pretty awesome. Please tell me there won’t be any mud-slinging after the fact. It would be so nice if just one celebrity relationship ended this way.
July 16th, 2009 at 10:46 am
hahaha, he had me at “six-figure settlement.” Note: I will NOT marry anyone for a six-figure settlement. Heck, I will NOT marry you for a nice five figure settlement. And I will also agree never to speak to nor about you ever again.
Hmm…does Craig’s List charge for ads?
July 16th, 2009 at 11:10 am
Dumping someone after a long term relationship by email, no matter the settlement, is so wrong.
July 16th, 2009 at 11:14 am
See, you see “wrong,” I see “paid off Beamer.”
July 16th, 2009 at 11:22 am
Guess I’m just old fashioned, yeah “paid off Beamer” is one way to look at it, but the ability to respond in real time would be a nice option to have, especially if you cared
July 16th, 2009 at 11:40 am
Oh, sure, I’m not saying that wouldn’t be nice.
July 16th, 2009 at 11:52 am
I’m going to say that it’s ok to dump someone by email IF the breakuper says in the email that if the breakupee wants to meet in person to talk about it/get closure/ask questions, the breakuper will make him/herself available at the breakupee’s convenience.
It might actually be kinder to let the breakupee have that initial moment of shock/sadness in private.
July 16th, 2009 at 12:56 pm
I just thinks it’s kind of cowardly, not “being a man” but being a scared little boy running away from the drama. Life is drama facing its problems/conflicts/mixed emotions is what helps you become that man.
You have no guarantee where the breakupee is when they read that email it maybe a place where they can not show their emotions and I definitely agree that the breakuper should make themselves available not say this is it, I will not respond to you because this is what’s best for me.
July 16th, 2009 at 2:36 pm
“I just thinks it’s kind of cowardly, not “being a man†but being a scared little boy running away from the drama.”
Well, I agree that that is why people (women too) do this kind of thing. But the main thing should really be about the breakupee, not so much punishment and taking one’s lumps. Agreed, should make efforts to send email at time/to account that the breakupee is likely to read in private. And agreed, probably best to do in person. But better to break up by email, than stay in a relationship because you’re too much of a wuss to do it in person . . .
July 16th, 2009 at 3:07 pm
All I’m saying is if you’re breaking up with someone – and yes you should break up if the relationship is not working. By all means do not stay in something because it is comfortable /convenient or you are afraid of hurting the other persons feelings. Delaying the inevitable is only going to make it worse, just give the person a chance to respond don’t leave them shattered and left to pick up the pieces all by themselves.
July 16th, 2009 at 4:57 pm
I think we are in complete agreement, biggest loser.
July 16th, 2009 at 5:02 pm
Thanks pearatty it’s nice to know someone agrees with me on this!