Comments on: Not ready to make nice http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/ Me fail English? That's unpossible. Sat, 10 Jan 2009 03:07:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Clareified » Blog Archive » Unforgiven http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-185080 Clareified » Blog Archive » Unforgiven Wed, 08 Oct 2008 15:26:20 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-185080 [...] Whoa.) I think she especially got animated because, as you all know, forgiveness and I are not well acquainted. I mean, I met forgiveness a couple of times when I was young, but we didn’t really hit it [...] [...] Whoa.) I think she especially got animated because, as you all know, forgiveness and I are not well acquainted. I mean, I met forgiveness a couple of times when I was young, but we didn’t really hit it [...]

]]> By: Joe http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-118213 Joe Sat, 02 Feb 2008 07:10:47 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-118213 I auto cry I auto laugh 2 think u want my auto graph. ----Babysitters Club Super Special #2 I auto cry
I auto laugh
2 think u want my auto graph.

—-Babysitters Club Super Special #2

]]> By: Dawn Summers http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-118191 Dawn Summers Sat, 02 Feb 2008 06:24:05 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-118191 2Cool2B4Gotten 2Cool2B4Gotten

]]> By: Joe http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-118189 Joe Sat, 02 Feb 2008 06:20:37 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-118189 Karol...I LOVE you. "Have a KOOL summer. Never change." Karol…I LOVE you.

“Have a KOOL summer. Never change.”

]]> By: Karol http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-118121 Karol Fri, 01 Feb 2008 23:53:55 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-118121 <i>I’ll have you sign my highschool yearbook instead? Deal?</i> Hahahahaha. I’ll have you sign my highschool yearbook instead? Deal?

Hahahahaha.

]]> By: Joe http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-118086 Joe Fri, 01 Feb 2008 22:10:12 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-118086 oooh facebook? I'm sorry about all that. When I finally get my invite over to your apartment (poker games don't count), I'll have you sign my highschool yearbook instead? Deal? BFF. FFFFFFF. I'm incorporating you into my crew in 2008. Done. Thus sayeth the gay. oooh facebook? I’m sorry about all that. When I finally get my invite over to your apartment (poker games don’t count), I’ll have you sign my highschool yearbook instead? Deal?

BFF. FFFFFFF. I’m incorporating you into my crew in 2008. Done. Thus sayeth the gay.

]]> By: Dawn Summers http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-117665 Dawn Summers Fri, 01 Feb 2008 02:08:19 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-117665 You left me comment, that makes you my best friend. ill put you in my best friend circle on facebook. You left me comment, that makes you my best friend. ill put you in my best friend circle on facebook.

]]> By: Joe http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-117648 Joe Fri, 01 Feb 2008 00:18:11 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-117648 Man, I wish I had the opportunity to get to know you better. Let's be friends already. Karol already knows I love her Republican ass. Man, I wish I had the opportunity to get to know you better. Let’s be friends already.

Karol already knows I love her Republican ass.

]]> By: Dawn Summers http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-117623 Dawn Summers Thu, 31 Jan 2008 22:48:13 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-117623 You're so lucky I take your calls. You’re so lucky I take your calls.

]]> By: Karol http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-117621 Karol Thu, 31 Jan 2008 22:45:28 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-117621 <i>I am really glad I don’t know you. </i> Man, I don't have that luxury. I am really glad I don’t know you.

Man, I don’t have that luxury.

]]> By: Anna http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-117500 Anna Thu, 31 Jan 2008 15:50:27 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-117500 Obviously I was never implying that Ari is NOT a 10. I've been reading her blog for a long time now, and just by her writing anyone can tell that she's a witty and very smart woman who knows what she wants and deserves. I also never said that what her friend did was NOT wrong. But he's been publicly ostrasized for it, and as a reader of her blog, it's really sad to see that one of my favorite writers is supporting it. Obviously I was never implying that Ari is NOT a 10. I’ve been reading her blog for a long time now, and just by her writing anyone can tell that she’s a witty and very smart woman who knows what she wants and deserves.

I also never said that what her friend did was NOT wrong. But he’s been publicly ostrasized for it, and as a reader of her blog, it’s really sad to see that one of my favorite writers is supporting it.

]]> By: Gypsy http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-117381 Gypsy Thu, 31 Jan 2008 09:16:02 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-117381 Accidental mistakes can be forgiven with an apology. "Mistakes" done with malicious intent are not mistakes at all. All of which is to say that I don't agree with the two posters above, and I think your friend is a 10. Accidental mistakes can be forgiven with an apology. “Mistakes” done with malicious intent are not mistakes at all. All of which is to say that I don’t agree with the two posters above, and I think your friend is a 10.

]]> By: Gregg http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-117219 Gregg Wed, 30 Jan 2008 21:00:58 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-117219 I don't know you, but from you post you sound like a very nasty bitch. I am really glad I don't know you. I don’t know you, but from you post you sound like a very nasty bitch.

I am really glad I don’t know you.

]]> By: Anna http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-117196 Anna Wed, 30 Jan 2008 19:44:32 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-117196 Just a passerby on the blogs and have no say in anything either way. I never comment on them, however after reading your post it made me sad and I felt compelled to say *something*. I think it's extremley ridiculous to waste your life & time holding grudges against people that have wronged you in the past. You are not perfect, neither is the person next to you. Shit happens. Apologies are needed. Those that are ballsy enough to say sorry after hurting someone should be appreciated, not repelled by others. Obviously there are things that happen which cut us all deeper than we'd like to admit - but we will not be here forever. Neither will the ones that touch our lives. I'm not trying to undermine your intent to stand by your friend, I just think it's sad to think that someone could be so quick to cut people out of their life. I'm sure you wouldn't want that to happen to you. Just a passerby on the blogs and have no say in anything either way. I never comment on them, however after reading your post it made me sad and I felt compelled to say *something*.
I think it’s extremley ridiculous to waste your life & time holding grudges against people that have wronged you in the past. You are not perfect, neither is the person next to you. Shit happens. Apologies are needed. Those that are ballsy enough to say sorry after hurting someone should be appreciated, not repelled by others. Obviously there are things that happen which cut us all deeper than we’d like to admit - but we will not be here forever. Neither will the ones that touch our lives.

I’m not trying to undermine your intent to stand by your friend, I just think it’s sad to think that someone could be so quick to cut people out of their life. I’m sure you wouldn’t want that to happen to you.

]]> By: Casca http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116761 Casca Tue, 29 Jan 2008 18:26:29 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116761 Feelings... nothing more than feelings... trying to forget my feeeeelings of loooooooove. Feeeeeeelings, wohohohohohoh feeeeeelings, wohohohohohoh feeeeelings... Feelings… nothing more than feelings… trying to forget my feeeeelings of loooooooove. Feeeeeeelings, wohohohohohoh feeeeeelings, wohohohohohoh feeeeelings…

]]> By: Dawn Summers http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116591 Dawn Summers Tue, 29 Jan 2008 09:22:58 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116591 Casca, I really don't have a "dog" in this fight. Reading Jamie's post just made me realize that I've been trying to be someone I'm not and I wanted to think through my own feelings on the issue of forgiveness or not. Of course, Ari is my friend and I don't have any problem saying that I'm completely on her side in this, however, she wants to handle it. So far, she hasn't asked any of us to shun him or anything, she has just said she personally is done with him and my post was just saying that were I in her place, I would feel the same way. Casca, I really don’t have a “dog” in this fight. Reading Jamie’s post just made me realize that I’ve been trying to be someone I’m not and I wanted to think through my own feelings on the issue of forgiveness or not. Of course, Ari is my friend and I don’t have any problem saying that I’m completely on her side in this, however, she wants to handle it. So far, she hasn’t asked any of us to shun him or anything, she has just said she personally is done with him and my post was just saying that were I in her place, I would feel the same way.

]]> By: VJ http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116582 VJ Tue, 29 Jan 2008 08:46:52 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116582 [Geez a shorter character cut off rate too?] Here's my sign off for the baove comment, as it was cut off: (Well not quite<i></i> [Geez a shorter character cut off rate too?] Here’s my sign off for the baove comment, as it was cut off:

(Well not quite

]]> By: VJ http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116581 VJ Tue, 29 Jan 2008 08:45:13 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116581 A really touching paean to true friendship, I was glad to read it Dawn. I saw the comment come across on Ari's & recognized the site tag (??) and knew something was a bit off. Still not funny, even if it was meant as a 'one off' sort of deal. It might have even almost 'passed' for something silly & 'impulsive', but for that pesky definite insult in the last sentence. That's just a bit much, at least for friends. Now I've got unmarried (male) friends who I tell all the time that their 'stock is falling' as they get older, but again as I said on my longer comment on that thread (6 Down from Jamie's), really no one ought to be considered 'zeros'. But least of all friends. Is this sort of BS 'screw driver in the neck' sort of unforgivable? I don't know. It's NYC, and hey the educational system being what it is, maybe Jamie has trouble expressing himself well. He's apologizing well, but of course that really requires receptive ears too. I've got a similar outlook on this 'stuff', but past a certain point, most folks are not worth the effort of retaliation. I don't forgive easily, but I can forget. I can deal with you knowing that you insulted or wronged me. It's typically something that's necessary as an adult in business relationships. With 'friends' & voluntary organizations, perhaps not so much. There seldom will be any 2nd time though. You get one chance to Deliberately F*ck up, and that's it. There are very few exceptions, even with family. As the wife reminded me this evening I've always told everyone I knew to never regard me as a 'gentleman'. Because at a certain point when pressed, I can go Dawn on your ass. (Well not quite<i></i> A really touching paean to true friendship, I was glad to read it Dawn. I saw the comment come across on Ari’s & recognized the site tag (??) and knew something was a bit off. Still not funny, even if it was meant as a ‘one off’ sort of deal. It might have even almost ‘passed’ for something silly & ‘impulsive’, but for that pesky definite insult in the last sentence. That’s just a bit much, at least for friends.

Now I’ve got unmarried (male) friends who I tell all the time that their ’stock is falling’ as they get older, but again as I said on my longer comment on that thread (6 Down from Jamie’s), really no one ought to be considered ‘zeros’. But least of all friends.

Is this sort of BS ’screw driver in the neck’ sort of unforgivable? I don’t know. It’s NYC, and hey the educational system being what it is, maybe Jamie has trouble expressing himself well. He’s apologizing well, but of course that really requires receptive ears too.

I’ve got a similar outlook on this ’stuff’, but past a certain point, most folks are not worth the effort of retaliation. I don’t forgive easily, but I can forget. I can deal with you knowing that you insulted or wronged me. It’s typically something that’s necessary as an adult in business relationships. With ‘friends’ & voluntary organizations, perhaps not so much. There seldom will be any 2nd time though. You get one chance to Deliberately F*ck up, and that’s it. There are very few exceptions, even with family. As the wife reminded me this evening I’ve always told everyone I knew to never regard me as a ‘gentleman’. Because at a certain point when pressed, I can go Dawn on your ass. (Well not quite

]]> By: Casca http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116577 Casca Tue, 29 Jan 2008 08:31:03 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116577 Good gawd, much ado about nothing. D, I don't see how you have a dog in this fight. Good gawd, much ado about nothing. D, I don’t see how you have a dog in this fight.

]]> By: A dot you knoa http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116547 A dot you knoa Tue, 29 Jan 2008 06:04:54 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116547 2/10. I really hope Jamie isn't a guy, because this type of drama needs to stay entirely female. 2/10. I really hope Jamie isn’t a guy, because this type of drama needs to stay entirely female.

]]> By: Jamie's Therapist http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116533 Jamie's Therapist Tue, 29 Jan 2008 04:35:49 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116533 I don't even know you people, having just followed a link from Alarming News, but I have some advice for Jamie: Stop groveling. You had it right the first time (in the comment), and they're not forgiving you in any case. You're just castrating yourself here. Fuck 'em & move on. I don’t even know you people, having just followed a link from Alarming News, but I have some advice for Jamie:

Stop groveling.

You had it right the first time (in the comment), and they’re not forgiving you in any case. You’re just castrating yourself here. Fuck ‘em & move on.

]]> By: "Anonymous" http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116486 "Anonymous" Mon, 28 Jan 2008 23:21:53 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116486 How did you figure out it was Jamie? Hahahahahahahahaha How did you figure out it was Jamie? Hahahahahahahahaha

]]> By: "Anonymous" http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116485 "Anonymous" Mon, 28 Jan 2008 23:20:20 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116485 How did you figure out it was Jamie? Hahahahahahaha How did you figure out it was Jamie? Hahahahahahaha

]]> By: Ari http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116478 Ari Mon, 28 Jan 2008 22:47:04 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116478 she means: <a href="http://www.haloscan.com/comments/arigoesdown/413014407206982135/#526642" rel="nofollow">here</a> she means: here

]]> By: Dawn Summers http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116466 Dawn Summers Mon, 28 Jan 2008 22:16:06 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116466 HAHAAHHAHAAH.... heres the post http://www.ariagoesdown.blogspot.com/2008_01_01_archive.html#413014407206982135#413014407206982135 HAHAAHHAHAAH…. heres the post http://www.ariagoesdown.blogspot.com/2008_01_01_archive.html#413014407206982135#413014407206982135

]]> By: Ugarles http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116454 Ugarles Mon, 28 Jan 2008 19:50:26 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116454 The commenting boosting technique you were using back when you wrote the "I'm sorry" post was very impressive. The commenting boosting technique you were using back when you wrote the “I’m sorry” post was very impressive.

]]> By: F-Train http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116444 F-Train Mon, 28 Jan 2008 19:02:27 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116444 You know what this thread could use? A photoshop. Someone snap to it, and quick! You know what this thread could use? A photoshop.

Someone snap to it, and quick!

]]> By: Casca http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116414 Casca Mon, 28 Jan 2008 15:28:46 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116414 "Are you so unyielding in your hatred that you’ll kick me even when I’m down? " When else would you kick a man? “Are you so unyielding in your hatred that you’ll kick me even when I’m down? ”

When else would you kick a man?

]]> By: KJ http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116412 KJ Mon, 28 Jan 2008 15:24:33 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116412 This reminds me of sixth grade. I was a 12 year-old. This reminds me of sixth grade. I was a 12 year-old.

]]> By: Ari http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116407 Ari Mon, 28 Jan 2008 14:53:52 +0000 http://www.clareified.com/2008/01/27/not-ready-to-make-nice/#comment-116407 I hurled nothing, I said my mistake was considering you a nice person. And, you only apologized once you were caught. Not unsolicited. Which leads me to believe that yes, you are sorry, but that you got caught. Said vitriol is a little fantasy that your memory created to make you feel better about being a completely passive aggresive jerk (who again, is sorry that he got caught). That's my five cents. I have nothing else to say on the matter. I hurled nothing, I said my mistake was considering you a nice person. And, you only apologized once you were caught. Not unsolicited. Which leads me to believe that yes, you are sorry, but that you got caught. Said vitriol is a little fantasy that your memory created to make you feel better about being a completely passive aggresive jerk (who again, is sorry that he got caught).

That’s my five cents. I have nothing else to say on the matter.

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